Have you ever done something just because you “should?” Or not done something because you shouldn’t? I’m not talking about basic laws or common sense, I’m talking about the things society, your peers, your family, etc, say that you should (or shouldn’t) do.
Examples of how I’ve been should-ed:
- We have been married for ten years, so we “should” have kids by now
- I went to college to be a nurse, so I “should” do that forever
- We “should” save all of our money instead of traveling
Here are my opinions on the above “shoulds” as they relate to my life:
- kids: how is this anyone else’s business?! (seriously, this is one of my biggest pet peeves! Don’t ask people when they are having kids, or why they don’t have kids, or if they have considered fertility treatments, or adoption, or whatever. Just don’t).
- nursing: I decided to be a nurse when I was 4 years old, and committed to it when I was 18 and started nursing school. Nursing was a great job for me for over ten years. It’s not my passion any more. (And, I’m pretty sure I make better decisions as a 30-something than I did at 4 or 18!)
- money: again, how is this anyone else’s business?! We are responsible; but, we also have a bad case of wanderlust and love to travel. So we do. We could save more than we do…but for what? To travel later? What if we don’t get a later? Why not do it now when we are young(ish) and able?
Now, I’m not saying do whatever you want and forget about everyone else’s wants and needs. This is what I am saying:
Take care of your responsibilities, take care of your people: then have fun, do what you love, and follow your dreams.
One of my favorite quotes that supports this idea comes from the book Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert:
BOOM! How freeing is that?! After reading that book, I realized that it is okay to not want to be a nurse anymore. I had already started my LuLaRoe business, and was dabbling in graphic design. I took a leap, started a design business, and quit my nursing job. (Read about why here). I took a leap, supported by this mentality, and I’m happier than I’ve ever been!
Quit letting yourself be shoulded! Don’t should yourself, and definitely don’t take it from anyone else. Go do big things! (or little things, if that’s what your heart desires!!) Follow me on Instagram for more to see me doing what I love to do, not what I “should” do!